Unofficial relationships fabricated by Hollywood

When it comes to relationships in college, it is arguable that ‘unofficial relationships’ or ‘friends with benefits’ relationships are ideal. College kids normally have no idea where they’re going to be in the next four years and don’t want to miss out on all of the experiences college has to offer. Through developing one of these relationships, you are able to experience intimacy without the intimidating pressure of commitment. This is especially appealing in many cases in which someone has just gotten out of a bad breakup and is afraid of getting hurt, so they hold a part of themselves back.
However, with the release of popular movies such as “No Strings Attached” and “Friends With Benefits,” many hopeless romantics are under the impression that, through developing one of these relationships with someone that they really like, they’re going to fall in love and live happily ever after.
This, unfortunately, is not the case 99 percent of the time. Entering an unofficial relationship with feelings can be detrimental to the relationship as a whole. It can lead to jealousy, insecurity and the cliché of unrequited love.
The best way to transition out of one of these relationships and become either the real thing or friendship is communication. Considering that the majority of people aren’t psychic, the only way for the other person to understand how you really feel is through communicating. Despite the idea of the ‘talk’ being intimidating, it saves you and your partner from being hurt in the long run. Communication can also help to gain a sense of closure. And although the truth may hurt, nothing good comes without a little risk.
Be cautious when entering these kinds of relationships, and know exactly what it is that you’re getting yourself into. Communicate with the other person first and foremost, especially in the beginning of the relationship. And remember that it is never wise to get intimate with someone who does not reciprocate the same feelings that you do, because, although it may work out in the end, in many cases it does not and can not only ruin the relationship and friendship, but also one’s self esteem.

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